Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs your help emotionally and physically. When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells at children, can easily sleep, or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.
A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without offering to assist her and make her better and happier. If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and resolve the following with her:
1) CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM.
You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her sincerely open up to you.
2) BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES.
Get to know how her workload is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work five days a week, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweigh her time and energy.
3) BE APPRECIATIVE.
Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be so common that nobody will appreciate her for it, and this can kill her. I appreciate your wife. Your appreciation and encouragement can make her do more of those things.
4) GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT.
Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand. Not until she falls sick.
5) GET A MACHINE.
Get all the machines needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dishwasher, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundry machine, etc. In the alternative, you can hire a house helper who can from time to time be of assistance.
6) BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT.
Be totally involved at home, and stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to be a parent. It takes two to make a marriage work and be Successful. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.
7) HOLD HER.
Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her lap, hold her hands, and let her feel your warm body, and your love for her as well.
8) ALWAYS LISTEN.
Men are known to be good directors but not very good at listening. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen to her words even though you still have your own opinion. Do not interrupt, let her unburden her mind. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions where and when necessary and you will be fully engaged in the conversation.
9) BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER.
Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame anyone, just be there for her. That’s all you need to do and if she wants you to offer solutions, provide them for her.
10) GIVE HER HOPE.
No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands or your voice in surrender. Giving up, crying, or weeping will hurt your wife more. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being overly critical or negative. When she hits rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.
11) BE SENSITIVE.
Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what needs to be done at home, and do them without prompting.
Learn the art of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Take the actions, take the lead.
12) DON’T STOP PRAYING FOR HER.
Take your time off to pray for her, and hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart. Let God fix her challenges, you can not do it all alone. Let God know what you appreciate about her, and ask for the help of God. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask him to comfort her and help her see herself as He sees her.
13) ALWAYS PRAY WITH HER.
Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her as well, hug her after you have prayed together, hold her hands, and committee your Marriage to God together.
14) ASK HER WHEN TO HELP.
Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset. She will open up to you, It may not be what you think, don’t speculate. Ask, she will appreciate it more than you will ever know.
15) THE HOUSE CHORES.
Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for at least a day, do all the cooking, or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat, and rest, this may be all she needs to reset.
17) TAKE HER OUT
Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she loves to go, not just where you want, just follow her, that will give her great excitement and more belief that you love her.
18) ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to resolve her challenges.
19) GO ON HOLIDAY WITH HER.
Taking a break from her daily routine and spending some time away might do the trick. This might be all you need to ever do in order to Fix what your wife is going through when she is really really down.
