Sunday, August 27, 2023


This is how to get the attention and time of the woman you admire and would like to date and possibly get married to her.

1) Do a little research about the lady, especially about where she’s residing. You must do at least a little research about her so you will know about her, lifestyle and career.

You can go through her social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, and read her posts and the things she shares on her wall because this will help you know a little about her.

This will also give you a clue about her person, the kind of things she likes and is passionate about, and her interests in the things of life.

If you go through my profile, you will observe that I am passionate about relationships marriage, and family-related issues.

Some people’s passionate about food, Graphic DESIGN, Educational posts, business discussions, career opportunities, family matters, relationships and Marriage, fashion design, gender equality, women’s advocacy, women empowerment, etc.

So going through her profile to take note of these things will give you an idea of the kind of person she is.

If the person you are Admiring is usually offline, you can also do some research about her in her environment. Observe her well and you will see something you will use to strike up a conversation with her whenever you see her walking down the street.

Her personality and lifestyle, beauty and makeup, fashion sense, interests or hobbies, passions, Dislikes, etc., are good areas to strike up a conversation with her which will make her interested in any topic you may bring up for discussion.

2) Strike up a conversation using your findings. After you have gathered enough information about her in the neighborhood, then use what you have found out about her to strike up a conversation with her.

Don’t enter her inbox and start greeting her up and down or start asking the unnecessary questions that will put you away from her, questions like “Can I know your name?” “Where are you from, I mean your current location” “Where are you chatting me from.” You know you are not serious like this.

You can also ask her about the names of her ancestors and how they’re doing since you are a questionnaire.

Send her a direct message but be polite about it if you want to get her attention and time.

Exchange pleasantries but be mature about it.

Introduce yourself first then, bring up a conversation with her based on what you have found out about her.

You can ask her a question based on your results.

You can compliment her on what she is doing well, it could be her career or hobby.

You can encourage her as well, it’s part of the things that will make her heart soften for you.

You can offer to support her in whatever capacity you can at your will, that’s if she needs any support in what she’s doing.

All these are based on what you noticed on her Facebook wall. For example, if she is an Author of a book, you can pledge to support her and make her book go viral on the internet and offline as well.

You can ask her questions about the book and how far she has gone in marketing it.

You can buy one from her and ask her to send it to you on WhatsApp or email, you will get her number from there, the ministry is gradually moving forward.

You can pay for more people and ask her to do a giveaway on her wall which is part of encouraging her and helping her to make the public know about the book. You have won a special place in her heart by doing this.

3) Avoid using endearment names. Calling a lady you just met sweet and romantic names like sweetie, sweetheart, My Angel, my baby, my love, or like our brother best and most beautiful is a turn-off for many ladies because you just met her so romance shouldn’t just come in immediately.

Some of you don’t try at all, you look at someone’s daughter and call her my Angel. If it’s you, wouldn’t you be angry and block that person?

Endearment names are for those in a relationship already. You’re not in a relationship with her yet so be responsible my brother.

Some will go as far as sending their manhood to the lady in the name of telling her what they can do with her in bed, this is a very dangerous mistake you should avoid whenever you are Admiring a woman for a relationship.

4) Keep checking up on her both online and offline. Don’t state your mission immediately she gave you her number. Try making her your friend before anything else. Till and water the ground before planting your seed.

You don’t sow a seed on fallow ground and expect it to germinate and bear fruit. Be calming down small, my friend while exercising patience. Make it a point of duty to communicate with her frequently no matter how tight your schedule may be for the day.

Chat her up always whether on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or WhatsApp, call her if she gives you the audience to speak with her, and check up on her every day before going to bed.

Know how she’s doing, how her day is going, what challenges she’s facing, how you can be of help to ease the situation, how her day went, etc.

Crack sensible jokes to make her happy and feel good. Almost every lady likes guys with a sense of humor.

She will be getting the message small and small. Give her enough attention at all times.

5) State your mission to her now. After you have done these things mentioned above, after she must have become free with you and after she has started getting the messages right with you, you should ask her out especially on the weekend so she will not give you the excuse of having a tight schedule.

Nothing is going to happen if you open up to her. Heaven will not fall. She cannot beat nor bite you. Don’t be shy unless you want to remain single.

The highest thing she may do is to accept or decline your request and it’s finished.

If she declines your request, don’t give up yet because that’s your first attempt. Some ladies like to do small shakara, and some like to play hard to get before they will accept your relationship request.

In all, stop terrorizing ladies in their inbox with your manhood, greetings, and endearment names! Be a responsible man.

Now you know, go and talk to that lady you have been admiring before another man will first you, and you people will start to drag her out which will not be acceptable to her.

Did you find this helpful? I would love to hear what you have to say in the comment section.

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