You might be sabotaging your love life in these five ways. Watch the video and read this article to learn more.
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Are you unconsciously sabotaging your love life? Most of us have no idea we’re stopping ourselves from finding the love we want. In this video, I’ll be sharing the top five ways most people get in their own way when it comes to dating and building relationships.
5 Ways You’re Sabotaging Your Love Life
How do you sabotage your love life? In three key ways:
1) You block opportunities for dating and love. Unconsciously, through your behaviors, you broadcast to the world that you are not interested in a relationship.
2) You’re resistant to love: You say you’re open to finding love, but you avoid opportunities to make yourself available to dating or meeting men.
3) You’re ambivalent. You sort of want to find love, and you have an online profile, but you’re not fully committed. You send mixed messages to potential dates by being half in and half out.
This stems from limiting beliefs about yourself, about men, and about relationships.
1. Beliefs about yourself: “I’m not _________ enough (young, smart, wealthy, pretty, etc.)”, “I’m terrible at relationships”, “I’m better off single”.
2. Beliefs about men: “All men cheat, men don’t value women, men are selfish, men are clueless, men will break my heart, men disappoint”.
3. Beliefs about relationships: “Relationships are about compromising too much”, “A relationship will stunt my independence”, “I don’t have time for a relationship”.
So you sabotage your love life in these 5 ways:
1. You date emotionally unavailable people
2. You’re afraid to show your softer side
3. You’re looking for the spark and other unrealistic expectations
4. You have trouble trusting
5. You don’t communicate your wants and needs
To break the cycle of sabotage…
Recognize when you have a limiting belief. Ask yourself: Is it true? Do I know without a doubt that it’s true? If it’s not 100% true, how else can I see it (what’s another perspective I can adapt)?
Over time, with self-awareness and self-compassion, you will end the cycle of self-sabotage and begin drawing in the type of partner who would be a good fit for you.
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