You’re stuck in a never ending routine of working, grinding through dinner and clean up, tucking the kids in (if you have any) and then heading straight to bed where you pass out or turn on the tv and zone out.
To say you and your partner are like two ships crossing in the night is the ultimate understatement. You feel more like two ships docked in totally different oceans.
Here’s what you need to know if you’re in a season of life like this…
IT’S NORMAL BUT NOT SUSTAINABLE
Busy seasons are part of all relationships, after all life regularly pulls your relationship apart. However, something you need to keep in mind is that your relationship will not autocorrect.
If you don’t connect with one another, and this never changes, you will inevitably start to fall out of the know with one another. Overtime you may become more and more disconnected.
2. KNOWING NEVER ENDS
Even though you likely know that you and your partner are continuously changing and growing and having new experiences every SINGLE DAY, you likely act as if nothing has changed.
And that you already know what you need to know about your partner. However, knowing one another never ends. Just when you think you know it all, something new happens or your partner has a new experience and POOF more to know.
Try to push back against the mindset that knowing is a final destination and continue to explore one another and be experts in each other.
3. YOU JUST NEED A LITTLE JUMPSTART
Sometimes getting back into a rhythm of talking requires a little help and a little structure. Work to carve out talk time together that is sacred and protected. I get it, more than you know, that kids like to talk most to you when you’re talking to each other, but this time to sit and catch up will make a major difference in your relationship.
Here are a few conversation starters to get you going:
- What’s been the best thing that has happened this week? Tell me about it.
- What do you miss the most about our relationship before kids?
- If money wasn’t an issue, what would you want to do with your time?
- What’s been on your mind lately that we haven’t had time to connect about?
If you’ve struggled to come up with content to talk about, check out our eGuide 365 Conversations to Deepen Your Relationship for some fun and meaningful conversation ideas.