Women may expect their men to know when they are not in the mood for lovemaking and not ask or when they are in the mood and ask. I got so frustrated countless nights, I almost hit hubby! He didn’t get it when I was caressing his body. He ought to know that means, I want you to make love to me.
“You should have plainly told me” He protested when I accused him of negligence.
“You should have got the signal.” I retorted.
“Why can’t you just ask?”
“Why can’t you just get it?’
“There were times I responded and you went to sleep”
“Well, your hands made me feel sleepy.”
“So my hands are sleeping tablets abi?” I smiled.
“When they made me sleep?”
“It’s not my fault I didn’t respond to your signal then. Learn to ask.”
‘You are a man, make the move when you need it, women request for it by showing it by giving signals” I reiterated shyly.
Okay, the Case is settled. He showed some understanding and I was so happy! A few days later, a show! I tried again! No show! I was angry!
“You don’t respond!” I almost screamed!
“Why can’t you ask?”
Oh my God! I realized this case will keep repeating itself unless someone stops it. My phlegmatic husband won’t stop it, so I broke the cycle. I learned to ask, point blank; and God is making a way where there seems to be no way!
Your spouse is not a mind reader. Don’t expect them to read your mind when you have deep needs. Tell them in a nice way and they will respond.