Honestly? I was shocked. Is “content” enough?
Then, we started talking more about what content looks like and feels like. About what my experience of joy is like.
They weren’t far off. For Shamon, content feels safe, secure, at ease. That’s what it’s like for me to bask in the warm glow of joy.
The thing is, a lot of times we expect our relationships to be BIG experiences to be enough. Passionate. Exciting. Soul connecting. And, yes, those experiences are awesome, but in the grand scheme of things, they’re rare. Or simply don’t happen as often as content and joyful.
How often, though, do we judge the status of our relationship by the BIG experiences? The social media-worthy ones? How much time and energy do we put into making those happen that we miss out on the moments of contentment and joy? What would happen in your relationship if you focused more on the little things? The ones that actually happen day to day?
I’m not saying that the bigger experiences aren’t important. And I’m not suggesting that you “settle” for moments that are false contentment and joy, pretending that things are ok when they’re not. I’m talking about choosing to appreciate what we have right in front of us, instead of chasing things that leave us disappointed or feeling like there’s something wrong in our relationship because we’re not swooning over each other in every moment or swinging from the chandeliers or whatever else society/media/hollywood is telling us that couples do.
Think about how you’d like to feel on a daily basis in your relationship.. A feeling that is sustainable. What are some of the things that you do, your partner does, or that you do together that help you get there? Do more of that. Pay more attention to those things. See what happens in your relationship. I bet it’s good. 🙂