It has been a long time since I wrote an article on my website. Life has been changing, and I had to change with it. Besides concluding two master’s degrees this year, I also got married in October and returned to my teaching career.
However, because this place is all about love and relationships, I’m presenting you with a tool that I believe will change your intimate dynamics: The shadow relationship with ourselves and how to change it.
The shadow relationship with ourselves means the traits we tend to suppress or avoid in terms of not letting others know how we feel. For example, we know that we need to respect our necessities and time to restore our energy, but neglecting it seems the easier road to navigate. Another example is recognizing pattern behaviors in our partners, family members, or other social groups which hurt us, but we pretend to be ok. Why? Because the shadow relationship also means the disregard we live inwards.
The expression “work on yourself” seems to be a trendy receipt, the miraculous cure spreading around with so much easiness, but it is a brutal reality that many of us tend to avoid.
Let’s be honest for any human being healing emotional wounds and reprogramming the emotional/nervous system takes time. It is a journey with ups and downs, advances, and retreats.
It took me two years, and it is still a work in progress, to rebirth the woman I used to be. I was lucky enough to have a “tank” full of good emotional memories and so much love from childhood and the early years of my teenagehood, allowing me to move on, leaving behind years of heaviness and unfairness. I wasn’t fair and felt like I was punishing myself in the name of something unchangeable.
Never allow anyone to disdain your value or who you are.
I hope you enjoy the Thais video. Merry Christmas!
With love,
Alexandra
