Why are there so many breakups and divorces in the summer?
As you can imagine, break ups and divorces happen all year long…
But in our experience, a couple of times a year, they happen more frequently.
Although the highest sales months for our “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” program are January through March, the summer months are a close second.
So, why is that?
Why all the dissatisfaction with love relationships and marriages at this particular time of the year?
Maybe you’re feeling a little (or a lot) of dissatisfaction right now yourself!
We’ve been doing one-on-one relationship and life coaching since 1999 (in person and later Zoom) and what we’ve noticed with the people we’ve worked with are several things that could account for this…
Here are 3 reasons for breakups…
1) People tend to be more active in the summer months
We’ve found that in the summer months, people start coming out of hibernation so to speak and start doing things and spending time with more people then they ordinarily might.
Sometimes being with other people triggers the desires within you for something you don’t have in your relationship or marriage and you start to see the spark of possibility in the other people that you hadn’t seen before.
2) Quite often couples spend more time together in the summer months than
This extra time together that is supposed to bring you closer and help your relationship can actually make it worse if you are focused on what’s going wrong, what you don’t like about your partner, how they’re driving you crazy, how they don’t give you the love you want, etc.
It’s crazy isn’t it?
The time some couples spend on vacations, trips, get-togethers with friends and family can actually trigger and make bigger what you don’t like, love or appreciate about each other.
It can actually make you think you should consider leaving him or her.
3) In the summer time, men and women alike want to start looking better and working out more.
Maybe it seems so innocent (and probably is) when you want to drop a few pounds so you can get into those jeans you can’t quite zip up or want to look better at the beach…
But when people of either sex start looking better, they’re usually feeling better about themselves and when this happens…
They want to feel validated, appreciated and they want to feel sexy and alive…like they’re important.
And that’s not all…
If someone (anyone) doesn’t get their perceived needs met in their relationship, they are subject to be open to getting those needs met elsewhere –even if it’s just talking to someone of the opposite sex who “gets them.”
For some people (both men and women)–summertime is the time they can give themselves permission to act on or even accept their feelings (which come from their thoughts) that something in their relationship or marriage isn’t quite right.
Like anything else in life that you start to place your time and attention on, the question of “Should you stay or should you go?” seems to start taking center stage in your mind, heart and awareness.
If that’s happening for you or someone you know, it’s because that’s where you are putting more and more of your focus.
If you’re in a place where you’re living with the question of whether to stay or go and maybe you’re not feeling appreciated or loved by your partner–possibly feeling the tug to get your needs met elsewhere…
We’d love to help you get to the right answer that’s inside you.
Thousands of people have gotten the help they were looking for in our “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” program and also in one-on-one relationship and life coaching with us.
The bottom line is this…
We believe that ANY relationship or marriage can be healed or saved and actually totally turned around *IF* both partners want it.
If that’s you–then don’t quit.
Even if you’re uncertain…
Don’t stop looking for the shift within you that will help you create the love and relationship you want.
We’re here to help you make sense of this or any relationship or life challenge.