1) Be There When You Are Needed. The biggest failure of a man is having a child and rejecting that child at the same time, abdicating his duties as a father, being quick to make love with his wife, and quicker to run away when pregnancy comes into the marriage.
Too many children are unhappy because of a father who is alive but has disowned them indirectly, it makes the child grow up feeling unwanted and unloved by someone who’s supposed to show him love and care, and it dents the child’s self-esteem and confidence, and some become adults with a constant feeling of rejection in the mind. If you ever have a child, be there for that child; no matter what happened and how bad things are between you and the mother of the child to the extent of divorce, be there for that child when you are needed; you owe it to them one as your responsibility.
compliment a girl should be her father while growing up, the first man
to take note of her beauty should be her dad and that shows he
appreciates her as a gift from God. A girl should grow up convinced she
is beautiful and feel like a king’s daughter that even when boys and
men try to talk to her about a relationship, saying she’s beautiful she
will respond “I know, dad has been telling me that for many years.” Too
many girls fall for preying men because they are desperately looking for
affection, and someone to appreciate their endowment, they have daddy
issues and had no encounter with a male figure who genuinely loved them
before the preying men noticed their attractive and irresistible boobs
and hips; so they fall prey to men who use compliments and give them
attention as a carrot to lure to a trap that leads to hurt.
3)Model Manhood To Your Sons. A boy comes into the world as a naive
student who will learn what the male figures around him teach. He can be
taught the right way to be a man or be misled in the wrong direction of
being a man. He learns how to treat women around him whether good or
bad from the men around him. He should learn proper manhood from the
father who is expected to be close to him every day. The father should
be a role model to him and regularly educate him on how best to treat and
respect females starting from their youngest, how to respect as a man as
well, how to work smart, how to provide for himself and for his younger
ones, how to be a man of integrity and dignity.
in the form of loving mentorship and coaching, too many men grow up
in the absence of their fathers, and too many grow up with a father who
puts too much pressure on the poor boy in order to win daddy’s approval
that they grow up frustrated and angry at the world because their
transition from boy to man was a cruel experience and made to be a test
to win a nod than a smooth mentorship process. Too many boys are left to
find their way and in so doing they have managed to form The Habit Of Eating With
Your Family. Food brings people together even people that are keeping
malice, one of the greatest shows of security to a child is when the dad
makes time to share meals with him or her. Even if is not his favorite
meal, endeavor to share a piece with him, it gives joy.
5) Be The
Spiritual Leader Of Your Family. The father should be the High Priest
of his family. He should lead the child or his children towards living a
Godly life, he should be seen praying for them or with them, reading
God’s word together and even teaching them to understand it passage by
passage, living out a Godly life should be seen in him as a father,
showing them how to care, and love each other. The child should be given
a Godly foundation that will shape a stable future for him and the
father should be seen submitting to God who gave the child life and who
makes parenthood possible for him.
6) Be A Good Listener. A child
with a father who loves to listen to him grows in confidence. When a
child feels he or she can tell daddy anything and his Dad will support
and fight for him, believe it, no battle will intimidate that child.
Sometimes you don’t have to say many words to motivate your child, just
sit back and pay attention to his or her request. The first need of love
is to be a good Listener, to be treated like how you feel and what you
have to say is important to your father. That’s the dream of every
7) Give Quality Advice. A father should be there to offer
counsel to his child whether solicited or not. Children always cry for a
reason and direction. As a Dad, be involved in the process of seeking
answers to the needs of your child. Be open about your mistakes and
faults, and do not tell lies that you used to get straight A’s in school
during your childhood days, your lesson notes are excellent, and your
expectations of the child pass a message that you are a loving father.
final otherwise you isolate yourself from the child because the child
can’t do what you ask yet fear and despise you; but help the child
understand why you are insisting on your own way, after all, you want
the best for him or her, help the child understand your reasons for
taking such decision, train your child to think through solutions and
resolutions; this way, he or she will grow up with the self-sufficient
capacity of making sound and wise decisions every day of his life.
Be Present At All Time. The father’s presence should be felt by his
children at all times. So many fathers have left parenting to their
wives. The best taste of love is the giving of time, do not fail this
because it will negatively affect your children.
9) Stop Throwing
Money At The Problem. No matter how rich you may be, fatherhood is not
done by throwing money at issues just to calm the person down. When your
child complains of your absence at home whenever problems arise when
dealing with your child becomes a handful and you feel you have no time
to deal with the challenge affecting that child; don’t use the money to
silence or appease your child. Fatherhood is a hands-on approach thing,
it will not be easy but its fruits are sweet and awesome. Don’t escape
through your ATM card. Material things can contain a child for a moment,
but soon the child will look around and see empty things but no love
from his or her father.
10) Always Show Up. Make daddy
appearances because your child needs it from you; show up at your
child’s sports day in school, birthday in school, parent’s day in school
or in the church, graduation day, or any other special day in the life
of that child. Make random visits to what your child cares a lot about
even if for a few moments. Meet your child’s friends briefly to know who
they are and their lifestyle, and let your children feel daddy’s loving
eyes are watching over them.
makes a random visit to smile at the employee’s work and appreciate him
or make corrections, a citizen feels special when the President makes a
surprise visit to greet the citizen and praise them for being a good
citizen, a child feels special when daddy makes a loving phone call or
shows up to demonstrate he cares and gives affection.
11) Be Your
Children’s Superhero. Be a strength to your child, the rock that is a
shelter to his people, the refuge of the homeless, and the defender of
the powerless, these are what your children want from you. The
attributes of God the Heavenly Father should be part of your prayer
Points for the good of your children, and model them as their earthly
12) Cast A Vision On Your Children’s Life. Join hands
together with the mother of your children, and cast a vision into your
family. Define what you expect from your child because children love
living up to a standard. Make the vision and values that should govern
your family plain and simple for the child to live with it. Your role is
to show leadership to everyone in the family.
13) Always Stay
Focused Because They Are Watching You. Prophecies and vision are not
enough, you must not abandon your sheep. A man is the one who proposes
to a woman for marriage, he initiates the formation of a family
foundation, but too many men abandon the family they themselves
started. They start having affairs outside their marriage, wasting time
and money on women instead of taking care of their family, and being
distracted by meaningless pursuits as their children suffer in society.
Don’t let go of the steering wheel, drive your family car with its full
14) Be A Success Story To Your Children, Succeed As A
Father. Make efforts to succeed in your profession, succeed in life too, and shine like a star in society. Children love to brag about their
father’s achievements, be the best man in your child’s or children’s eyes,
the one to grow up to admire. Let it be an honor to carry your name as a
surname for your child.
15) Love Their Mother. Your wife
acquires a new position when you have children from her, she is not just
your wife but the mother of your children as well. Your child or
children love both of you the same way and the desire of a child is to
see mummy and daddy in love working as a team for their own good. A child
should grow up with the demonstration of how true love looks like from
his or her parents. Let this be seen in you.
Train up your child in a way that when he or she grows up, that child will not depart from that godly way.