Marriage
is one of the best things that can happen to someone, but unfortunately, it’s very difficult to maintain unless both of you choose to be
committed to each other and work it out with love. Most
of the things that usually bring misunderstanding in marriage, are the
things that can be sorted out between the both of you. In Marriage, no
one is perfect even if you give yourself a 100% pass mark that you are
perfect.
The unacceptable characteristics of your spouse can not just go away by merely talking about
those characteristics, but not to be castigating your spouse because that
will put your marriage in danger.
Below are the things you should never do in your Marriage if you want lasting happiness in your Marriage.
1) Never blame your spouse for their imperfection. Blaming Destroys Marriages. Marriage would be wonderful if spouses took
personal responsibility for their actions and owned up to their
mistakes. Unfortunately, in many marriages today, spouses constantly
blame each other for the failure of their marriages.
The husband blames
the wife for her failure to submit to her husband, while the wife blames
the husband for failing to love her as Christ loved the church. The husband blames the wife’s lack of respect,
love, and Commandments. Blaming is the easiest way to escape
responsibility and also one of the easiest ways to destroy your Marriage, don’t engage in it.
In
the book of Genesis, chapter 3:12-13, Adam said, “The woman whom You
gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate.” Eve said,
“The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” Do you see how blame affected the
relationship God had with our first parents, Adam and Eve? Every
temptation to blame your spouse for any mistake done by him or her is
an opportunity to change yourself. Regardless of your spouse’s omissions
and errors, just accept the fact that you are imperfect and that you
also have an important role to play in the current status of your
marriage.
2) Never
talk bad about your spouse to others. The idea of going out to talk bad
about your spouse is simply giving your marriage away on a
silver plat for Satan to come in and destroy it, and that is wrong. You should be very mindful of people who are so eager to know
more about the problems you are facing in your marriage.
They act to be
very kind and generous to you but very very serious to see the downfall
of your marriage. The fact remains that the devil uses human beings to
do his work, don’t expect him to turn to a snake-like he did to Eve in
the Garden of Eden before you recognize him.
The solution going forward.
The lasting solution for any marriage that will be successful are:
1) Walk with God through prayers for your marriage, for your spouse and yourself, and lastly for your children.
2)
Communication without barriers and timetables. Communication should be
listed amongst your top routine daily, it should not be by
choice but mandatory.
3) Always plan the affairs of the family
together with your spouse. Failure to work together as a team will
bring division of unity in your marriage.
4) Always appreciate each other’s commitment, it gives room for more sacrifices.
5)
Don’t listen to underground gossip against your partner. No matter how
good you think your marriage is today, people will always see one or two
things to use against you or your partner. When this happens, the best
thing to do is to ignore them. Taking their word will put your marriage
in trouble.
6) Learn to forgive without keeping records of how many times you may have been offended.
Doing
things that will bring lasting happiness, joy, unity, progress, and love
to your marriage, is not going to be easy but successful marriage
doesn’t happen in a twink of an eye.
