Have you been invited to an orgy or sex party? If so, have you wondered what to do at an orgy and how to behave to have a great time?
Well, here’s how you should prepare to have the best experience at a sex orgy.
Given us humans are so driven by sex, it’s a wonder we don’t host sex parties more often.
No matter if you’re new to this or have experience, the truth of the matter is simple: There’s a lot more to an orgy than one first thinks.
There are many spoken and unspoken rules to abide by, boundaries to respect and correct attitudes to uphold.
It’s particularly at college where we might start to consider participating in an orgy. It’s here where most teenagers are experimenting and trying new things.
Not only are we having sexual intercourse for the first time. But we’re also developing our own understanding of the act and the way its carried out among various kinds of people.
If you find yourself invited to an orgy, you shouldn’t simply say “No” on the basis of fear. By all means, however, you should come prepared.
I’m not simply talking by means of toys and equipment. I mean mentally prepared, too.
You can’t simply assume the dynamics of orgies; this will get you into trouble. You have to inform yourself thoroughly of the way they’re expected to work.
To avoid making a fool of yourself, here’s a list of do’s and don’ts which can be applied to most sex parties. The basics to make sure you don’t do anything you shouldn’t.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Sex Orgies
First off, you should know that arriving empty-handed is not okay.
It’s like going to your Grandma’s house and not accepting a piece of cake: it just isn’t done. In the case it is, it’s rude and ungrateful. So bring anything that could possibly help.
It could be some sort of greasy, delicious food to keep everyone satisfied and sustained. Or it could be a form of drink to spice up the situation.
Either way, make sure your hands are full when you walk in. It means people are more likely to welcome you into the situation. Everyone’s participation counts. So don’t take yours for granted.
What should you wear to a sex party?
Before arriving with bags of food and drink, you should think carefully about what you wear.
At sex parties, there are (with lack of a better way to say it) a lot of genitals flying around.
Whether you think yours are particularly special or not is completely irrelevant. We are humans and we have similar forms; people are bound to mistake who they’ve been intimate with.
If you want to be remembered – or rather, if you don’t want to miss an opportunity with someone – wear something memorable. This way, people won’t skip over you.
On dress-up occasions, people may choose to wear eye masks or even a set of flippers. You don’t have to be extreme. The idea is that you simply wear something that separates you from the rest. To grab attention.
If possible, wear something that accentuates your body’s features.
How to behave at an orgy?
What else? You should make it a point to compliment others. Keep people’s spirits high by sending out positive vibes.
Don’t overdo it – and definitely don’t lie. But don’t be afraid to tell someone where they’re doing it right either. And for the love of all that’s good, learn how to compliment women without being creepy.
You’d love to hear it yourself so why not let others know? Especially if you find something genuinely interesting or attractive about them.
Often when you compliment others, they’ll find themselves more attracted to you too. It’s a win-win.
Furthermore, you should be inclusive. Even if you’re not particularly attracted to someone, let them join your orgy anyway.
At a sex party, there’s going to be an array of different individuals. You’re not going to love them all. That’s not the point. If you were looking for your perfect sex partner, you wouldn’t be at such an event.
The point is to experiment with a few different people. So be open and don’t push people out. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Also, don’t but(t) your way into an orgy.
If you arrive late and weasel your way into an intimate situation, you can most definitely expect repercussions. You can’t simply skip the ground-work and reap the rewards anyway. People put effort into choosing the right teams to fulfill their sexual fantasies.
For this sake, you ought to be weary about joining them. So start slow. And don’t take on any dominant roles until you’re being offered them.
Sex party etiquette
Now you know what to do at an orgy and how to behave. But what about the etiquette?
Something else that’s really important – Don’t take things personally.
If someone doesn’t want to be intimate with you, it’s not because you’re ugly or fat or because you don’t deserve to be there.
Everyone has their specific likes and dislikes. And sometimes, you just don’t make sense of someone’s ideal orgy.
That’s entirely okay. There will be people like this for you too. Accept it and find someone else.
What’s more, and I touch on this briefly in the beginning (see how important it is), don’t break the rules.
At an orgy, you’re responsible for you but also the people you bring. You ought to make sure all members associated with you are playing fair.
Most sex clubs have certain guidelines to adhere to. Remember that you’re lucky to be included in such a wild sexual experience; don’t take it, or people, for granted. You’ll only lose the future invite. Because people who don’t know how to behave and what to do at an orgy don’t get invited to them again.
Above all, have fun and be respectful. Try to relax, don’t be awkward, but don’t be in people’s faces either. Unless of course, they like that. Then by all means, get right in there!
Oh, and if you’re single and looking for a partner, there’s a service called Zuma Dating and Networking Events you can join. To meet other local and global people that help you start new healthy relationships and even possibly organize some sex parties in your area.
