“A bachelor is a man who comes to work each morning from a different direction.” Sholom Aleichem
In the dating world, choices may fall in your lap. If you want a long-term partnership, who do you choose? The truth is you have dated both. Then you dated and then dated more.
Oh, that’s right, I have dated and dated more; I am not certain what you have been doing. I found myself on a merry-dating-go-round and did not bother to get off the ride to see where I could improve until I did.
Getting caught up in choices is easy when there are so many. When you think about it, you are shopping for a human to be alongside the human that you are, seemingly wonderful and strange simultaneously.
Chances are that the confirmed bachelor will remain the confirmed bachelor. If you think you will change his mind after getting strung along for months, even years, you most likely will not; after all, he is his age and had plenty of chances to tie the knot. The divorcee is a better shot. He has tried marriage and is not shy from it, he may have been burned but he was once willing. Men who are married live longer and are generally happier beings. If marriage is what you want, look at the history. It provides a valuable road map. Put it in your back pocket, don’t let it dictate the possibilities that could be in your future. Allow yourself to be open to new experiences.
NEWS FLASH: There are more single women that are choosing to stay unmarried. Some women are avoiding marriage. Young men are reportedly more disconnected due to the rise in social media and constant distraction from real connections. Working hard, women have there on money, career, life, and friends.
Marriage is still happening, but there is a definite slice of women saying nope, we are just as fine as the bachelorettes.
Life will always draw us toward partnership and love. It is the human plight. What you do with it is up to you.
If you land in the category of partnership, love, and marriage, I will strongly recommend the man that has been married. There is definitely the marrying kind and the eternal bachelor. The bachelor may be big fun to play with for a while, but ultimately if your goal has wedding bands and wee ones toddling about, go for the guy with the same vision.
If you want to read about my love journey looking for love, you may find pearls of wisdom “A Man for Every Purpose, My Naked Journey Searching for Love.”
Keep your love road map nearby but open your eyes and heart for possibilities.
My Mantra: “When looking for love, look at yourself; go from there.”